February 14, 2012

"Where did the love go?"

"I ate it."

As I am counting my Valentine Blessings and being thankful for the love in our home (and trying not to eat every wonderful sweet in sight!), I can't help but remember a conversation I had with my oldest when she was four years old.

It was time for bed and we had read our books and she said, "Mommy, tell me how your parents aren't married anymore..."

I said, "Well, they were married and when I was two, then they got divorced, which means you break up."

She said, "Mommy, no, I don't understand."
I said, "Well, sometimes when people are married, they don't get along..."

"Mommy, no, I don't understand."
"Well, you are married on a peice of paper and you have to go to a lawyer to get divorced."

"Mommy, no, I don't understand."

At this point I am like Help! "You go to a judge...."

Again, "Mommy, I don't understand, I mean... Where did the LOVE go?"

Sometimes as a parent you know God is by your side and helps you find the answer. I tearfully said, "Sweetie, I don't know where the love went, but what I do know is that your Mommy and Daddy love each other very much." It might not sound profound, but I know I had help when I said it! 

Oh, and we will have a whole different conversation when she is you can't date till you are 30, get to know someone really well... make sure you get along... and any boy will fill out the "Application to Date my Daughter"  as my husband cleans a gun at the coffee table... but I have time...

So you as you celebrate Valentines Day, I hope you feel loved and celebrate the love it your home, and remember the sweet verses below, also read at our wedding ~ 
13 Valentines & 13 (or something) pounds later ~
Happy Valentine's Day Honey!

Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act  unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails... But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7,13



  1. I love this post and relate too closely with the conversation about love and divorce. I have had the same exchange with my son and oldest daughter and I know I will have to do it again with the baby. I also know that God has a hand in these conversations and even though we may not answer the questions posed, we assure our children that they are loved unconditionally and that we will do everything within our power to keep them safe from harm. And I believe that is really what they are looking for when they asked the question.

    On another note, I am proud to have been a witness to the love and commitment you and your husband shared all those years ago and even prouder to witness it still flourishing today. Thanks for sharing. I love you.

  2. Well said, I do think that is the reassurance they are looking for! I am so glad you were there to share in our wedding day as well, and thank you for the kind words <3